Saturday 14 August 2010

Looking Ahead

Ok, so I've decided it's time to quit the moaning. Upset as I may be about having my period right now instead of being pregnant, complaining about it and moping won't get me anywhere. So I've decided to tackle my problems for real next cycle.
I think the main two things I'm dealing with are lack of cervical fluids, and short luteal phase. So here's my plan for this cycle: Vitex Agnus Castus up until ovulation, to regulate the cycle. Using pre-seed around O time (without M noticing it, this might be a challenge). Using progesterone cream after O to lengthen out the LP.
Well, I've also spoken to M about my fears of not being able to get pregnant again. His position is very clear: He doesn't believe in IVF and "all that stuff" and if people can't get pregnant naturally then "they're not meant to". I found this upsetting and infuriating on various levels as I completely disagree; not only for my own sake but also when I think about those women I have met online and who are struggling to get pregnant. How could you say they're not meant to be mothers? When they so very obviously are. I think most of those featured on "16 and Pregnant" aren't probably meant to be mothers, but they got pregnant nevertheless. The ability to become pregnant does not say anything of your deserving to be.
So following that line of thought M also doesn't want to use pre-seed, and thinks taking any sort of tablets is a waste of money. So I've decided to override him on the pre-seed, heh heh. Hopefully it's easily administerable so it won't "feel" too different. But seriously, I have next to no CM and I'm done with the completely natural approach. I just want to be pregnant already.
I do very much hope that it won't ever come to us needing IVF or anything more invasive, for that matter. Because I know M won't be up for it - he'll just say we've got one already and that we're only meant to have one child and he's happy enough with it.

To end on a less grim note, Teddy is so funny at the moment. He is getting to grips with the concept of people owning things; or things belonging to one person or another. So everything in our household is "Mummy", "Daddy" or "Teddy"; be it shoes, pillows or mobile phones. But sometimes something that's either Mummy's or Daddy's really takes his liking, and then it's quickly changed to "Teddy"! (I.e. TV remote, the driving seat in Daddy's car). It's also funny how he prefers M's car to mine; clearly it is a lot cooler being bigger and better equipped than my little shoe box. Whenever we go out he wants to go in Daddy's car!

1 comment:

  1. I think your plan is a good one! I also think all of the things you are thinking of doing are basically natural they might just speed up the process or help things a bit. We do this in all others aspects of life (prepare ourselves, try to study for an exam instead of just going in blind, try to increase the chances of success,etc) so why not when it come to fertility and TTC?I also think your husband might change his tune about IVF if he was ever in the position of needing it... But I am sure it won't come to that!

    How cute about Teddy and mine :D

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